If Men Were Women

If Men Were Women…

They’d Guard Their Bodies Differently

Every day on social media, it’s another heartbreaking story.

“He impregnated me and abandoned me.”

“I didn’t know he wouldn’t stay.”

Some of this women are really struggling, I read some of these posts, and honestly, I cry. Not just because of what happened—but because of why it keeps happening.

How did we get here?

A young girl meets a man on Facebook. They've never seen each other in real life. He invites her over, and she goes. The first visit—she sleeps with him. No protection. No conversation about the future. No understanding of who he is. And then, the heartbreak begins.

Why did it have to happen this way?

Why did she give herself to someone who never earned her trust, never proved his love, and never showed the capacity to stay?

Why does she end up pregnant—sometimes again and again—for a man who showed no intention of being a father, a partner, or even a decent human?

It’s painful to say, but we must say it:

Too many women are paying the price for moments they didn’t count the cost of.

And worse, they're carrying the consequences alone, while the men who caused the damage walk away untouched—still scrolling, still hunting, still ghosting.

This isn’t just a matter of poor judgment—it’s the fallout of a culture that never taught our girls their worth and never held men accountable for their selfishness.

If men were women, most of them would stay virgins until marriage. Why? Because they’d quickly realize what’s at stake. Women carry greater risk—physically, emotionally, spiritually. And yet, too many young girls hand themselves over cheaply. They don’t pause long enough to consider what they’re trading in exchange for fleeting moments.

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PHYSICALLY, a man can impregnate ten women in a month without his life even slowing down. (Just today, I read of an 18year old boy who impregnated 10 women) But a woman? Her body carries the full consequence. A single pregnancy can sideline her dreams, shift her plans, and demand nearly a year of her life. Her hormones change. Her body reshapes. Her heartbeat literally changes. Sex is not just pleasure—it’s biology, and for women, the cost is higher.

EMOTIONALLY, the bond created during sex is not just chemical—it’s covenantal. Oxytocin, the bonding hormone, floods a woman’s system during intimacy, making her naturally more attached. So when he ghosts her, when he stops calling, when he moves on, she doesn’t just lose a man—she feels like she’s lost a piece of herself.

And let’s be real: over 90% of women don’t even reach orgasm in casual sex. Yes, let’s tell the truth. Most are left unsatisfied—physically and emotionally. So what’s the gain? Who’s really benefitting?

SPIRITUALLY, sex was never designed to be casual. It was created by God as a covenant act—sacred, binding, and purposeful. 1 Corinthians 6:16 reminds us, “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’” Sex is not just a body thing. It’s a soul thing. You leave fragments of yourself with every partner, and those fragments don’t just disappear—they linger.

Some women, when they realize this imbalance—how little they receive in return—say, "Well, if I’m not getting pleasure or love, I’ll at least get paid." But even then—money isn’t enough. You’re still selling something priceless for something temporary. Because a woman is a portal—the only vessel through which life itself can enter the earth. 

That’s not poetic fluff—that’s divine design. You’re a gate, a carrier, a co-creator with God. How can something eternal be bought with something that fades?

And yet, some try to feel superior by giving themselves freely—without even asking for what fades. As if doing it for “nothing” makes it noble. But in truth, whether it’s for money or for nothing, it’s still a devaluation of the sacred.

Even God, through the prophets, spoke directly to this. He used the language of sexual betrayal to describe Israel’s unfaithfulness. In Ezekiel, He called out Oholah and Oholibah—women who gave themselves freely, not even for payment. And still, He called it prostitution. Not because of the exchange—but because of the betrayal of purpose, the cheapening of something holy. Whether it's for coin or for compliments, for cash or for crumbs—God makes no distinction. It’s still dishonor.

Now let’s address the selfishness of men. Some men, not all, have built a culture that worships access to women but resents the responsibility of cherishing them. They want your body without your soul, your beauty without your boundaries, your gift without gratitude. They hate the fact that they need you—so they try to devalue you. They want you to give yourself for free because even paying would require them to admit your worth.

But here’s the truth: Even money isn’t enough. What you give through intimacy is never equal to what you receive in these transactions. These men take, take, take—and call it love. They celebrate conquest, not covenant.

We must raise an awareness that abstinence is not just about morality—it’s about power. It’s about reclaiming the narrative. It’s about a woman understanding that her body is not for the streets, not for cheap thrills, not for exchange—but for legacy, for love, for covenant.

To the young woman reading this: If you are not married, keep your legs crossed. I’m not here to shame you—I’m here to protect you. Protect your future, your soul, your peace. There is nothing “empowering” about giving yourself to someone who hasn’t earned the right to keep you.

Let’s raise a generation of women who understand that value doesn’t come from being desired, but from being disciplined.

And to the men: this is your fight too. This isn’t about giving women more power—it’s about creating a world that’s safer for your daughters, more honoring to your sisters, and more respectful to your wives. Stop being selfish. You were made to cover, not consume. To protect, not plunder.

A woman is not a product. She is not an experience. She is a carrier of destiny. And she cannot be bought.

Give yourself for love. Give yourself to build. Give yourself for legacy. Give yourself to someone who honours God, honours you, and honours your future.

Because anything less—is beneath you.

Janelle Obieroma

https://selar.com/Womenoflifepdf